Here’s a cool way to ramp up make your visualizations more effective and help you manifest your goals and dreams.

The key to creating positive things in your life is all based on how you feel emotionally. You see, it’s your emotions that either allow, or repel the good that you desire.

Basically, as you improve your emotional state, what you attract into your life experience improves as well.

If you want to use this to your advantage, tap into a higher emotional state when you do your visualizations (you are visualizing right!?).

One great way to do this is when you first sit or lie down to visualize, think about something that brings you great joy or something or someone that you feel great love for. Hold onto that thought until you feel yourself being overwhelmed with the emotion of joy and/or love. Appreciation is another strong, positive emotion. So if you prefer, you can also think about something in your life that you are extremely grateful for.

Once you’ve locked onto that strong positive emotion, hold onto it and start visualizing what you would like to create in your life. The combination of a strong positive emotion coupled with images of what you desire to create will cause a strong attractive force within you that will help pull your visualizations into your life experience.

That’s it, short and sweet!

Give it a try, and please share your results. I’d love to hear about them!

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We all hit tough times every now and again and sometimes it might seem like there’s no hope of escape. This hopeless feeling puts you into an extremely negative vibration which is not only unpleasant to experience, but also causes the law of attraction to bring more unpleasant experiences into your life. Thankfully, there are several things you can do to help deal with these difficult times and even start lifting yourself out of them.

Six Tips On How To Handle Tough Times

Whether you’re struggling financially, emotionally, with relationships, or with your health, these tips are sure to help.

Give them a try. The more you use them, the better your results will be.

1. Look For The Good In Your Life

When things go wrong in your life, it’s easy to keep your thoughts focused on those problems. Focusing on your difficulties will tend to leave you feeling both drained and depressed.

No matter what is going wrong, I promise you that there is still a lot of beautiful and amazing things in your life. You just need to take some time to look for them. Are you currently enjoying good health, great relationships, a good financial situation, a great spiritual connection, a beautiful home, a loving family, great friends? Take some time to really appreciate any or all of these things if you are.

Another great place to look for things to appreciate is nature. Take some time to go out in nature and really focus your attention on the fresh air, the sunshine, the beauty of the plants and animals. This is one of my favorite things to do when negative thoughts start overwhelming me. Within minutes of going outside and really focusing on everything around me I start to feel truly grateful that I have the opportunity to live on this planet and experience the beauty of it with all of my senses.

Looking for things to appreciate will redirect your thoughts away from what’s wrong, and you will quickly notice yourself starting to feel better. As you begin to feel better your vibration will shift from a negative one to a positive one and you will begin to attract more positive experiences into your life.

2. Focus On Solutions, Not Your Problems

I mentioned earlier that it’s easy to get caught up in focusing on what’s wrong in your life. You can feel angry, depressed, victimized, or worse. You can talk to your friends and family about how horrible your life is, and they might even give you some pity or tell you how much their lives suck too. However, none of these things is going to help you move past your difficulties. In fact, all of these activities are just going to make you feel worse and putting all of your energy into the problem itself is just going to attract more problems into your life.

Instead of focusing on the problem itself, start looking for ways to solve it. Instead of asking “why me?”, start asking “How can I solve this?”.

As you begin focusing on solutions, several things will begin to happen:

• First, you will begin feeling better and more hopeful.
• Second, your subconscious brain will begin to work on coming up with a solution for you.
• Third, your point of attraction will shift and you will begin to attract solutions into your life instead of more problems.

3. Learn Your Lessons

Problems and difficulties offer a wonderful opportunity to learn, grow, and become a better person.

• Health problems offer lessons on how we should be taking care of our bodies.
• Financial difficulties can force us to find new and better ways to make money (or force you out of a job you hate, giving you the opportunity to pursue doing something you love doing instead).
• Relationship difficulties offer you the opportunity to improve how you relate to and treat others. They also offer you the opportunity to better determine what qualities are important in the people you enter into relationships with.

Whenever you encounter a problem or difficulty, look for the lesson in it and do your best to learn it well. When we learn the lessons that our problems are trying to teach us, we grow as an individual and put ourselves into a position to enjoy a better life experience as we go forward.

4. Take Action

We can learn a lot from basic physics – nothing happens until something moves.

It’s not often that your problems will just go away on their own. Start brainstorming and researching ways that you can solve your problem, then get your butt in gear and go do it. You might just succeed! On top of that, you will start feeling hopeful instead of hopeless!

5. Keep Your Vibration Up

Since the law of attraction brings you experiences based on how you’re feeling, if you’re feeling depressed, angry, sad, lonely, or hopeless, you are attracting more negative experiences into your life.

If you want to attract better life experiences, you must do whatever you can to make yourself feel better.

Here’s a few ideas to get you started:

• Spend some fun time with a pet, friends, or loved ones.
• Get out into nature
• Visualize what you want instead of dwelling on the unpleasant stuff that you’ve got
• Exercise vigorously. This will release endorphins that make you feel good.
• Spend some time doing your favorite hobby.
• Watch a funny movie, or read a funny book.

6. Ask for Help

Don’t be shy about asking other people for help and advice. Most people like helping others and will be glad to help you in some way, shape, or form. Besides, even if they don’t help you, you really aren’t any worse of than before you asked. You’ve really got nothing to lose by asking.

What About You?

Do you have any tips you’d like to share on how to handle tough times?

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• How and why you ended up where you are now.
• How to quickly discover what you really want, and how to get it.
• The ten steps to making what you want a reality.
• Simple action items for each step that make it easy to implement the process.
• The perfect way to formulate your goals.
• How to get your subconscious mind to help you succeed.
• Simple techniques that will activate the law of attraction to bring your dreams to you.
• The right way to visualize for maximum effectiveness.
• How to use the power of your mind to put your success on virtual autopilot.
• How to discover and easily clear your mental blocks to success.
• How to easily tap into your intuition to learn exactly what steps will make your dream a reality in the quickest, and easiest, way possible.
• How to expect success, and get it.
• How to utilize the little known “law of vacuum” to literally pull your dreams into reality.
• How to allow your dreams to easily unfold in your life.
• How to stay motivated and increase your confidence in your own creative abilities.
• How to have fun doing the whole process.

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“Quit now, you’ll never make it. If you disregard this advice, you’ll be halfway there.” – David Zucker

We’ve all seen somebody cover their ears and start singing “La-la-la-la-la, I’m not listening!”. If not, I hope you at least know what I’m talking about. At any rate, I’m here to tell you that this is a completely acceptable way to handle things when somebody tells you to give up pursuing your dreams.

If you’ve been pursuing your dreams, or even talking about it, you’ve probably also had the unpleasant experience of someone telling you to give up or not even bother trying. When someone tells you to give up, it can be tempting to take their advice. After all, giving up is easy and painless right? It might especially seem that way when things don’t seem to be working out for us.

The problem is that giving up on your goals and dreams isn’t painless. Sure, you could learn to be content with the way things are, but I can promise you that your dreams will continue to gnaw away at you for your entire life. You’ll never be completely happy, something will always feel like it’s missing or incomplete, until finally one day you’re on your deathbed, full of regret, and wondering what your life could have been had you not given up.

Okay, so maybe that’s a pretty bleak picture to paint, but in many ways it’s true. Close your eyes for a moment and get your imagination going. Fast forward your life and imagine you’re in your final years on this planet. Do you think you will be glad that you spent your life playing it safe and taking the easy route? Do you think you’ll be glad you stayed in career you hated instead of pursuing your dreams? Do you think you’ll be glad you decided to take the easy way out and watched television every night instead of taking some small daily actions to make your dream a reality?

Giving up on your goals and dreams is not painless, and it won’t make your life any easier or better in the long run. But if that’s true, why would people tell you to give up?

The Two Types of Naysayers and How To Handle Them

Why in the world would somebody tell you to give up on your goals and dreams? There are two main reasons why someone might give you this flawed piece of advice.

1. They genuinely care about you and don’t want to see you suffer failure.
2. They aren’t currently pursuing their dreams, and the fact that you are is making them feel threatened by you.

1. The People Who Genuinely Care About You

If someone that genuinely cares about you tells you to give up on your goals, it’s probably because they don’t want to see you end up being hurt or disappointed. They worry that things won’t work out for you, and it can be hard for loved ones to watch us go through difficult times.

The way to handle this type of situation is to gently thank these people for caring enough to try to protect you from suffering. But you also need to let them know that you will also suffer pain and regret if you don’t try to succeed, and that you would appreciate it if they could try to encourage and support you instead. If they really do care about you, they will respect your wishes.

2. The People That Are Threatened By You

The other type of person that will try to discourage you are the ones that feels threatened by your ambitions. They might feel threatened for a couple of reasons, and both of them are very selfish ones!

1. When they see you going after their dreams, it reminds them of how they have given up and settled in life. This reminder can be painful. So instead of being inspired by you and following your example, they instead try to get you to give up so that they don’t have to suffer being reminded anymore. To deal with these types of people, feel entirely free to use the hand over your ears method and ignore them.
2. The second type of threatened person is worried that you’re going to leave them behind. They worry that as you move on, you’ll forget about them, or won’t have time for them anymore. To deal with situations like this, gently remind the person that they are being selfish and that if your relationship with them is truly important, you will both make time for each other no matter how much your life changes.

Conclusion

Stay strong, don’t give up, stay true to yourself and your dreams. Listen to the wise advice of David Zucker…

“Quit now, you’ll never make it. If you disregard this advice, you’ll be halfway there.”

And feel free to throw in a quick cover of your ears and a “La-la-la-la-la, I’m not listening!” just for fun.

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Did you know that you can improve any area of your life by changing one little word in your vocabulary? This is a word that almost all of us use many times throughout the day, and it’s related to the rules we create for ourselves.

We all have our own self-made rules. Here’s a few common examples:

• I should exercise every day.
• I should put more effort in at work.
• I should spend more time with my family.
• I should not eat junk food.

But how consistently do you follow them? If you’re like most folks, you probably don’t follow your own rules very often.

Would your results in life improve if you consistently followed your own rules? Absolutely!

Rules, Actions, & Results

Your rules determine your actions. And your actions have a big part in determining your results.

• If you consistently exercised every day, do you think your health would improve?
• If you consistently gave your best effort at work, or in your business, do you think you would get more opportunities for raises and promotions?
• If you consistently avoided junk food, and ate healthy food instead, do you think your health and weight would improve?
• If you consistently gave your family attention and love every day, do you think your relationships with your family members would improve?

I think we can safely agree that the answer to all of these questions is “yes”.

But if you already have rules relating to these things, how come you can’t, or don’t, follow them consistently?

How To Consistently Follow Your Own Rules To Get Better Results

If you want to consistently follow your own rules and enjoy better results in your life, you need to change one word.

If you look at all the example rules I gave you earlier, they all contained the word “should”. “Should” is not a very powerful word. If we ignore a rule that uses the word should, it doesn’t cause us much mental discomfort. And if there isn’t much discomfort associated with breaking a rule, then we aren’t very compelled to follow it religiously.

So, how can you make your rules more compelling? Change that “should” word to “must”!

Compare the following rules:

Rules that use the word “must” feel a lot more powerful and compelling.

Try It For Yourself

What are the rules you have for yourself? If they contain the word “should” change it to “must” and commit yourself to following your “must” rules.

A quick word of advice before you do though…

Don’t create to many new “must” rules at once. You could find it overwhelming and end up giving up or failing, which might end up being a blow to your self-esteem.

Since success breeds more success, start with something easy that you’re confident you can succeed at. Stick with that one new rule until you’re confident that you’ve mastered it.

Every time you master a new rule, your self-confidence will grow. As your confidence grows, you’ll be able to take on more “must” rules. And the more “must” rules you have in your life, the greater your results will be.

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There are 24 hours a day. For many of us, that’s at least ten fewer than we’d like. In a society where we’re working more, lunching at our desks, and sleeping less, managing our time effectively has never been more important. But just how can you achieve that?

Sleep!

Ok, so you might not get a lot of your task list completed while snoozing, but resting is essential to make sure you are working at your optimum the next day. 6 to 8 hours (depending on the individual of course) will pay itself back by your increased efficiency, concentration, and focus the next day. Working on next o no sleep (or on poor quality sleep) means you end up spending longer on each task and completing it to a poorer standard. This often means you have to revisit and do that task again!

Take Breaks

For much the same reason that sleep is so critical, so are breaks. It’s vital to take a break to keep yourself refreshed and to renew your focus on the task. Take at least a short lunch break and keep yourself hydrated.

Goals, goals, goals…

NLP training providers advise over and over again, the importance of establishing your goals and working towards them. This is critical. You need to have a firm idea (write it down if you need to) of what you want to achieve each day and how you will go about it. Give yourself a realistic idea of what you can achieve and work with those goals in mind.

Eradicate the distractions

That report you have to write is going to come along much slower if your emails are continually pinging and you’re running a couple of Facebook chat sessions too! Close off any unnecessary distractions including phones, televisions, and so on, in order to get what must be done, done!

Merge Tasks

Not always the easiest thing to do, but try to incorporate certain tasks into others where possible. If you have an appointment at one end of town on a certain day and then another appointment in a similar area a couple of days later, try to move them to the same day. Seemingly small things like this can make a world of difference!

Stay Organized

Half the battle for the busiest of us is keeping on top of what we have to do. Half an hour spent working out what you should be doing is half an hour wasted during which you could have been doing it. Sticking to organised diaries has real benefits. Though it might require some time investment getting them started, it will pay dividends in the end.

Everybody finds ways to get the most from their time that suit them personally, but these are some of the basics that really shouldn’t be overlooked for the optimum usage of your time.

Changing your life can seem like a daunting task. Luckily, one of my favorite approaches to doing just about anything, also works great for tackling seemingly big tasks like trying to change your life.

The concept is simple. Take anything you want to accomplish and chunk it down into little bite sized steps that seem a lot more manageable.

If you wanted to apply this approach to making positive changes in your life, you could work on developing one new success habit every three months. Within a year, you will have developed four new positive habits.

Just imagine what your life would be like in one year’s time if you developed four new success habits like these:

• Spending several hours reading success related or educational books every week.
• Taking action toward your goals every day.
• Exercising three to five times a week.
• Eating less processed food and more nutritious food instead.

After just one year:

• You would be regularly filling your mind with useful information to help you improve your life.
• You would be steadily moving toward your goals and dreams.
• Your body will start becoming more healthy and energetic which will in turn give you more energy to devote to other areas of your life.

If you made these kinds of changes year after year, your life will be dramatically different in very short amount of time. All because you developed one new success habit every three months.

Why Three Months?

1. You’ve probably heard before that it takes about thirty days to develop a new habit. By allowing yourself a full three months of working with a new success habit, you can be sure that the habit will become deeply ingrained in your subconscious mind. This way you can be sure that you will continue your new habit even after the three month period is up.
2. Working on just one new habit every three months seems less intimidating than a new habit every month. Four new habits a year feels a lot more achievable than twelve. The more achievable something seems, the more likely you are to do it.

What Changes Do You Want To Create?

Where you want your life to go is ultimately up to you. By implementing one new success habit in your life every three months, you will constantly be growing, improving, and empowering yourself which will allow you to enjoy a life that just keeps getting better and better.

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I hope you’ve enjoyed this series of posts on how to change your life!

We’ve covered a lot of ground over the last few days, so I thought it might be a good idea to summarize everything for you into a step by step guide.

Step 1 – Become Clear

If you want to change your life, you first need to become clear about what it is you want.

Deciding exactly what you want will give your life direction and purpose.

Without having a clear goal in mind, you have nothing to move toward. It will be impossible to develop a plan to change your life if you don’t know where you want to go.

Imagine that you want to take a trip. If you have don’t know where you want to go, how can you make any sort of plan on how to get there?

Your life is no different. You need a goal, a destination in mind so that you can plan and live your so that you are constantly moving in that direction.

If you’re not clear about what you want in life, you’ll end up moving around aimlessly in a life that goes nowhere.

Read more about Becoming Clear…

Step 2 – Align Your Thoughts and Feelings

Once you’re clear about what you want, you need to align your thoughts and feelings with that desire.

What does this mean? Well, it means that you keep your mind focused on the thoughts and images of achieving your goal. You spend time everyday imagining what it would feel like emotionally and physically if your goal were achieved.

Why do this?

First, you need to keep your desire strong and believe that it’s possible for you to achieve your goal. By focusing on it daily, you will strengthen and reinforce your will to succeed.

Second, repeatedly thinking about your goal as if it were already achieved helps to reprogram your subconscious mind. If you keep bombarding your subconscious with thoughts and feelings of achieving your goal, it will eventually start helping you to make it a reality. New ideas and inspirations that can help you succeed will start popping into your head and your belief in yourself and your abilities will begin to increase.

Third, these thoughts and feelings will activate the law of attraction in your favor. Basically, the law of attraction says that like attracts like. So as you think about your goal as if it were already achieved. And as you imagine what it would feel like if your goal were already acheived, the law of attraction states that the Universe will start working to make those mental images a reality for you.

Read more about how to align your thoughts and feelings…

Step 3 – Learn What You Need to Know

In order to move towards your goals and dreams, you need to take action. The problem is that sometimes we don’t know enough to make the right moves. That’s where learning comes in.

When you have the the right knowledge, the actions you take will be a lot more effective and efficient and you will move towards your goals a lot faster.

There are many ways that you can aquire the skills and knowledge you need.

• Go to school
• Take a night course
• Read books on the subject
• Get a mentor
• Read magazines and online articles related to your goals
• You can even learn from your mistakes. At least you’ll know what not to do on your next try.

Read more about how to change your life by learning…

Step 4 – Take Action

Now that you have the knowledge you need, you’re ready to start taking action.

Action is necessary to achieve any goal. Read any good book on success, or any autobiography of a successful person, and they will tell you that you need to work to achieve your dreams.

Schedule time to take action towards your goals every week, or even better, every day. If changing your life is important, then you need to make it a priority to take the actions that will make it happen for you.

Making excuses isn’t going to change anything. A basic principle of physics explains this very well – “Nothing happens until something moves”. So get moving!

Learn more about how to change your life by taking action…

This Concludes The “How To Change Your Life” Series

I sincerely hope that you’ve found this series of posts on how to change your life to be helpful. I strongly encourage you to apply them in your own life. If you’re not already moving towards your own goals and dreams, don’t waste any more of your life. Get started today!

If you’re already working on changing your life, why not share what’s working well for you by leaving a comment below?

Other Posts In The Series: How To Change Your Life

How To Change Your Life: Part 1 – Become Clear

How To Change Your Life: Part 2 – Align Your Thoughts And Feelings

How To Change Your Life: Part 3 – Learn What You Need to Know

How To Change Your Life: Part 4 – Taking Action

This is the fourth post in a series on how to change your life. If you want to start at the beginning of the series, head on over to: How To Change Your Life: Part 1 – Become Clear.

Before we talk about taking action, lets quickly recap what steps you should take before you move on with this one:

1. Become clear about what you want in your life.
2. Align your thoughts and feelings with what you decided in step one.
3. Learn what you need to know in order to create the life you desire.

If you’ve taken care of the first three steps, you’re ready to begin taking action!

Why is Taking Action Required?

Over the years I’ve come across many books and articles that say that if you want to change your life, you only need to become clear about what you want and then align your thoughts and feelings with your desire. Once you do that, supposedly the law of attraction will magically bring whatever you desire into your life.

I completely disagree with this! Every story I’ve ever read about a successful person who achieved what they wanted in life, involved them taking action to get where they wanted to go.

Now, I’m not saying that I don’t believe in the law of attraction. My personal belief is that the Universe will bring you what you want through the actions you take. It might drop what you want in your lap, but you’ll have a better chance of succeeding if you start taking action.

If all you did was sit around visualizing all day, people in overalls will eventually show up at your home and start repossessing all your stuff.

So How Does Taking Action Work With The Law of Attraction?

If you first align your thoughts and feelings with your goals, then take action, three things will occur:

1. You will notice a lot more opportunities showing up in your life.
2. You will notice that your actions are easier and more effective.
3. You will start having more ideas on how to get what you want.

This is the Universe working the law of attraction in your favor. By helping you move toward your goals instead of just giving them to you.

Why Won’t The Universe Just Give Me What I Want?

I believe that the reason that action is almost always required is that it accomplishes three things:

• First, you will have a much bigger sense of accomplishment and boost to your self-esteem if you had to work to get what you want.
• Second, you tend to appreciate what you’ve achieved more when you had to work for it. And gratitude is a wonderful feeling!
• Third, when you take action, you often encounter problems and difficulties that will force you to grow and become a better person. Growing as a person allows you to become the type of person who is capable and responsible enough to have what you desire.

How To Begin Taking Action

The first thing you need to consider is that if you truly want something, you can’t make excuses as to why you can’t go and get it.

If you think you’re to busy, what can you give up doing that really isn’t as important as your goals and dreams? Learn to prioritize where you give your time and energy so that they go to things that are truly important to you. Make sure devote time every week, or (better yet) every day, to doing things that will help you achieve your goals.

Once you’ve allocated the time to take action, the simplest way to decide what actions to take is to ask yourself this question:

What one thing can I do today that will move me at least one small step closer to my goal?

If your goal seems way to big to know what you can do to move closer to it, break it down into smaller sub-goals.

Keep The Momentum Going

Getting started is the hardest part. Once you begin taking action, you will find that it’s easier to keep going. Use this to your advantage and make sure that you regularly schedule time to work toward you goals. After a while, you will find that it starts to become a habit.

Don’t Waste Any More Of Your Life

Stop settling for the life you have if you desire something more. Remember, time is going to pass by anyways, so you might as well be moving toward what your goals.

This concludes the taking action step. Make sure to join me in the next post where we’ll be putting together all the steps of how to change your life.

For more information on the action step of how to change your life, check out the book Taking Action!

Other Posts In The Series: How To Change Your Life

How To Change Your Life: Part 1 – Become Clear

How To Change Your Life: Part 2 – Align Your Thoughts And Feelings

How To Change Your Life: Part 3 – Learn What You Need to Know

How To Change Your Life: Part 5 – Putting it all Together